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8 lies you tell yourself to justify not giving up gambling: and how to counteract them..#2.

#2. I WILL STOP, I’M JUST GAMBLING TIL’ I’VE RECOVERED MY LOSSES...

These are the words of many problem gamblers presenting in therapy. Many of whom have significant debts and devastation has been caused to many areas of life as a result of gambling.  Admittedly this ‘argument’ or rationalisation itself can be very convincing. There is a sincere acknowledgment that the gambling is no longer a desirable activity and that it does need to stop. Additionally, there is a sense of unease about debts that have been run during the process of chasing losses- and of course it’s not hard to see that this is not good.  Most problem gamblers will also at this point intellectually be able to realise that if the gambling was responsible for running up the debt in the first place: there is indeed an overwhelming risk that further gambling, as a way to recover the debt,  is not a great way to go forward.  So, while there is a sincere intention about quitting the gambling, the belief here is about having ‘just that final bet’ that will enable them to quit with a clean slate. Everyone will be happy again. This is of course a huge risk to take and  the trouble is that many gamblers don’t really mind taking that risk. If you are a gambler reading this – it is important to recognise what character features in yourself brought you to take such an interest in gambling to begin with. Not saying that it is always tied in with your personality – or that every gambler is a risk taker, but there is little doubt that risk-takers are over represented amongst problem gamblers. And even if you are not one of them, chances are that you have ‘numbed out’ to your fear of taking risks with money over time whilst putting bets on that are beyond what you can afford.  Coming back to the reasoning behind the idea of using gambling to recover from gambling problems-  if often goes something like this  'rather take that risk and might win than having a guarantee of long and boring payback plan...’  and/or ‘if I just concentrate better/focus on x stock/pick the 'right' machine it could work out and I might win’  

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Wake up and smell the abstinence; a blog post for addicted gamblers

When you sworn you would not gamble again….and then what the heck happened???  

You have been doing your rounds in the family and with friends ‘that’s it now’ ‘I will never do this again’ ‘cannot believe I didn’t see what I was doing, thank goodness I woke up in time’. You have also been taking a number of serious steps to recover- not because you were trying to prove yourself to others-  it is actually how you felt at the time.  

But one fine day, there you are yet again … right there in the casino/bookmakers/on your Ipad (or whatever gambling route you may favour). What on earth happened there…?

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